There's a saying that goes “trust takes years to build, seconds to break and forever to repair” and it's 100% accurate. Even a suspicion is enough to destroy someone's trust in you, that's why I've compiled a list of 5 ways to build trust and keep it.
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If you say you're going to do something, do it. Don't let people doubt whether or not you're going to follow through on what you've promised. There are many reasons keeping your word makes your life simpler over more difficult and there are several repercussions when you don't give or keep your word. These include missed opportunities, damaged relationships, having a reputation as an unreliable person, conflict with others and experiencing guilt or remorse. Keeping your word means deeper connections with others and yourself. You eliminate guilt and you're more selective to what you agree to, which gives you peace of mind.
We live in a world of instant gratification and it applies to building trust. We return a wallet dropped on the floor and all of a sudden we're Jesus, or we do a good deed, post it all over social media and silently think move over mother Teresa. Well, it doesn't work that way. Building trust takes time just like earning respect. We do it every day without fail. It becomes part of our makeup, our DNA, our values and the effort is worth the reward of having people trust you.
That way, you're making an informed decision and you can't look back and wish you'd done it differently because you rushed into it. So how does this apply to building trust? When you agree to something, the person you're agreeing to will know unequivocally that you'll be involved 100%. They’ll know you're not going to dwindle away on the project, get fed up aboard or just up and leave. They will trust that they have your full commitment and that’s a wonderful feeling for the both of you.
When was the last time you did something totally crazy? Taking a risk with someone takes a lot of courage from both parties and when you have to place all your trust in someone with some crazy off-the-wall idea, well that most certainly will build trust. To put it more mildly, stepping out of your comfort zone with someone could open up a whole new world, maybe it's just taking a cooking class with a friend, dancing lessons with a partner or doing an online makeup course with family abroad.
These all involve putting yourself out there and doing something different and even if your new venture or crazy idea is an epic failure, it's still worth it. Life is inherently risky, there's only one big risk you should avoid doing at all costs and that's the risk of doing nothing.
While earning trust is wonderful, you also need to trust others. Easier said than done, right? I know it can be hard but you've got to let go and place your trust in the hands of others. And yes, you've probably been burnt more than once and yes, you've probably sworn you'll never trust again but there are genuinely amazing people in this world.
The following steps to learn how to trust again are brought forward by savvy psychologist Dr Ellen Hendrickson; stay in one place, get into a routine, give a little and see what you get. Make future plans, trust an animal, be trustworthy, actively look for trustworthy behaviour and grow the belief that you deserve to be around trustworthy people.
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