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Five things you should never do in a relationship

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1. Obsession

Love and obsession are as different as night and day because while the former gives your partner a sense of belonging or security, the later rips the other of his or self esteem. It makes your partner feel like an object of fascination rather than a loved person.

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Having understood what being in a relationship with a person obsessed with you, I can categorically state that it is exhausting.

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Obsession unchecked leads to;

A. Possessiveness

They want to own you, keep you in a box and lock it. They want to be the only one with the key to the box and exclusive rights to the box. You are like a favorite toy they're stingy with.

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B. Suspiciousness

When you are speaking with another person of the same sex with them even if you both just met the person, even if it is while traveling they get suspicious and begin to hover around or they'll just take you away rudely.

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C. Jealousy

They are jealous of anyone around you. A guy or girl can help you out with anything and all sorts of red flags will be going off in their brains. It doesn't matter if the helper is even.

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D. Monitoring

They want to know everything. Not that it is a bad thing but you have to understand that if you keep making reports of your day like you are in the military to your man, it is not healthy.

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You have to understand that obsession is the beginning of domestic violence.

2. Forget yourself

Women do this a lot. You have to understand that your singularity to appreciate duality. You can not give what you don't have. Love yourself but don't be selfish. Never let go of yourself to pick up another person's life. It makes break up more painful because you feel used and exhausted.

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3. Use your savings on your partner

If he or she doesn't value your future endeavors then they are now the one for you. Your savings is for a purpose, let them know what you want to do with the money and be very truthful. If they don't care and still ask you to dip your hands into your savings for them, please drop them. Breaking up with someone you foolishly spent your life savings on is going to leave you looking stupid and gullible.

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4. Guilt tripping your partner

If your partner don't have interest in doing something at a time or have given you genuine reasons why they don't want to do what you ask of them, then let them be. They have to be convinced in their hearts to do it. It has to come from their own consensus within themselves. Do not cloud their judgement by guilt tripping them, they'll resent you later for making them do it.

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5. Not define the relationship

Some people are busy dating those that are not dating them. You have to define the relationship from the beginning and set rules. If you are just friends then you are just friends, if you are dating then you are dating. Do not keep anyone hanging around you to make you look good or sort after. You will just wear yourself out.

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ClaireCharles · 06/30/2020
you've written well
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