Talking Sex Education - Tips for parents
View pictures in App save up to 80% data. We have entered such an age were talking about sex education to kids and teenage has become almost a compulsory topic.
It will prevent them from rape, make them aware of their bodily and emotional changes and keep them pre-informed on ways to handle these changes
Sexuality education means talking about all the factors that feed into children and young people’s sexual growth and development. Topics include bodies, privacy, sexual decisions, respectful behaviours and language, and the ‘place’ of sex in people’s lives...
HOW PARENTS BEHAVE ABOUT THE TOPIC:
Parents aren't very confident in discussing sexual issues with their children. Along the way a lot of children usually miss out on the vital information.
+ Fathers avoid taking part in sexual discussions. When they do, they limit it to less intimate headings.
+ Mothers are more willing but they talk to their daughters more than their son's.
+ Parents tend to leave boys out of female sexual issues like menstruation.
+ They leave school systems to teach them and only find out that their children are in a relationship. This then turns into argument because it becomes a disciplinary issue rather than a chance to talk about sexuality.
HOW CHILDREN BEHAVE ABOUT THE TOPIC
Younger children may be curious and interested when parents talk about sexual issues. Older children, particularly teenagers, tend to be less willing.
+ An older child may be dismissive when parents try to discuss sexual education. They can't stand the embarrassment and awkwardness.
+They will not by themselves ask questions relating to sexuality.
View pictures in App save up to 80% data. How to have successful sexuality conversation with your children
-Prepare to listen
-Allow them air their opinions with fear if being yelled at or punished
- LEARN AS MUCH AS YOU CAN; know what to teach each stage of your children's maturity level. Older children will need topics like menstruation, STDs, Homosexuality, premarital sex etc
- REHEARSE: Try put what you want to say on friends or your spouse.
- START WITH A FRIENDLY CHAT; Make the environment warm and inviting before starting your conversation.
- KEEP IT CASUAL: Dont make sexual conversation a special occasion. Do it while you are occupied with everyday task; cooking, washing, cleaning etc
- DRAW YOUR EXPERIENCES; If possible throw a shadow a your own experience so they can relate with the topic on a deeper level.
Avoid conversation stoppers
- DONT criticize their opinions or react in horror or anger
- DONT interrupt them when they are talking. Don't stop listening.
- DONT be stern and unapproachable; for example, avoid threatening statements like ‘If you get yourself pregnant, don’t bother coming home’
- DONT assume your child is sexually active or ‘in trouble’ if they ask you a question about sex. A hysterical response will probably guarantee your child may never risk asking you anything about sex again.
- IF you are shy or embarrassed at any point say so and laugh about it.
- IF you don’t know the answer to something, say so. Ideally, you and your child could research the answer together.
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This can help you have a great conversation with your growing wards and build an air of trust and reliability so they can always come back to you when anything goes wrong.