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How To Become An Emotionally Intelligent Person

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How To Become An Emotionally Intelligent Person

View pictures in App save up to 80% data. To be emotionally intelligent, you will need to spend time with yourself to better understand what makes you tick—you will need to pinpoint which words, situations, or people trigger favorable and unfavorable reactions. It’s vital that you look at your weaknesses and shortcomings in the eye so they don’t sabotage you when you least expect it. Mental toughness is not being afraid to address your weaknesses with the same enthusiasm and vigor as you explore your strengths.


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When you manage your emotions, you can leverage anxiety and stress. Anxiety is often seen as a negative emotion, but it’s a necessary one to spur us to action. Too much blocks achievement, while too little saps our energy. Like Goldilocks, we need to find the sweet spot between too much and too little anxiety.


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According to a popular science book by the journalist Daniel Goleman, emotional intelligence accounts for more career success than IQ.[105] Similarly, other studies argued that employees high on EI perform substantially better than employees low in EI. This is measured by self-reports and different work performance indicators, such as wages, promotions and salary increase.[106] According to Lopes and his colleagues ,[107] EI contributes to develop strong and positive relationships with co-workers and perform efficiently in work teams. This benefits performance of workers by providing emotional support and instrumental resources needed to succeed in their roles.[108] Also, emotionally intelligent employees have better resources to cope with stressing situations and demanding tasks, which enable them to outperform in those situations.[107] For instance, Law et al. [106] found that EI was the best predictor of job performance beyond general cognitive ability among IT scientists in computer company in China. Similarly, Sy, Tram, and O’Hara [104] found that EI was associated positively with job performance in employees from a food service company.[109]


How To Make It Work For You: It’s important that you not judge the emotion you’ve experienced as either good or bad—it is what it is. At this point, it’s more important to be honest about the emotion and stay aware of it as you move further into the situation. This will allow the thinking, cerebral brain to catch up with the fast-moving and emotional limbic brain system. This is critical because it gives you time to gain control of your emotion so you can craft your response.


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5. They're Incredibly Self-AwareAndrew Zaeh for BustleIt's possible to spot emotional intelligence in others simply by the way they carry themselves. " are very aware of the way they speak and how they come off to others," Raimondi says. "Almost as if they are observing a conversation as they are having it."In doing so, you might catch them "mirroring," which is a skill that puts others at ease. They may "change their tone and way of speaking depending on who they are with," Raimondi says, all as a way of creating a more meaningful conversation.


#29) Stand and stretch For an instant short term boost to your motivation, take a stand and stretch out as far as you can for 10 seconds. When you return to your desk, you'll be in the correct frame of mind and ready to work.


1. Manage your negative emotions. When you’re able to manage and reduce your negative emotions, you’re less likely to get overwhelmed. Easier said than done, right? Try this: If someone is upsetting you, don’t jump to conclusions. Instead, allow yourself to look at the situation in a variety of ways. Try to look at things objectively so you don’t get riled up as easily. Practice mindfulness at work, and notice how your perspective changes.

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